Top 3 Reasons Couples Come to Therapy—and How We Can Help
Do We Still Have a Shot?
You've been trying. But somehow, the arguments keep happening—or the silence between you is starting to say more than words ever could. Maybe you've asked yourself, "Are we broken?" Or maybe, you're just tired of carrying the emotional weight of this relationship alone.
You're not the only one wondering if couples therapy could help. And you're not alone in how you're feeling. At Walk With Me Counseling Center, we specialize in creating a space where both partners feel heard, understood, and supported—without shame, judgment, or taking sides.
Couples come to us from Chicago and all over Illinois through our secure virtual therapy practice. Whether you're married, dating, or somewhere in between, we offer culturally grounded support designed with our community in mind.
Here are the three most common reasons couples start therapy—and how we help them find their way forward.
1. Communication Breakdowns
You're arguing over the smallest things, or you've stopped talking altogether. Maybe the only conversations happening now are via text, and those go sideways fast. These breakdowns usually aren't about the dishes or the calendar. They're about deeper needs: to feel understood, respected, and emotionally safe.
We get it. Communication is the number one reason couples seek therapy. At Walk With Me, Deja Phillips, LSW, CADC, uses the Gottman Method to help you:
Break out of toxic communication patterns like blame, criticism, and stonewalling
Learn how to talk without fighting—and really listen without shutting down
Replace emotional reactivity with clarity, calm, and connection
You'll leave with tools to speak from your values, hear each other more clearly, and rebuild trust one conversation at a time.
2. Infidelity and Broken Trust
A breach of trust—whether emotional or physical—can shake a relationship to its core. You may feel betrayed, ashamed, or unsure whether this relationship can recover. Or you might be the one who made a mistake and desperately want to make it right.
Therapy is often the first safe space where these raw truths can be named, unpacked, and explored with care. We help couples:
Navigate the emotional aftermath of betrayal without blame
Create new boundaries that support healing
Rebuild trust through honesty, transparency, and accountability
Repair is possible. With support and structure, many couples do find their way back to each other.
3. Emotional Distance and Lack of Intimacy
Sometimes, what's broken isn't loud—it's quiet. You've become roommates instead of partners. The connection you once had now feels like a memory. That spark? Gone.
Couples therapy can help you:
Reignite emotional and physical intimacy
Reconnect with each other's inner world and love languages
Identify the life stressors, grief, or resentment that created the distance
With consistent support, couples rediscover what brought them together in the first place and learn how to hold on to that with intention.
Why Choose Walk With Me for Couples Therapy
We don't just offer therapy. We offer culturally attuned, love-centered healing rooted in community and care. Deja Phillips, LSW, CADC, brings a trauma-informed, Gottman-trained approach to her work with couples.
She creates space for both partners—without taking sides—so the work can be shared. She integrates faith and values, if desired, and brings a deep understanding of how identity, culture, and past wounds shape how we love.
Here's what you can expect:
Virtual sessions from anywhere in Illinois, including Chicago
Evening and flexible scheduling options
Compassionate support grounded in the values of love, healing, and community
Acceptance of Blue Cross Blue Shield of Illinois (BCBSIL) PPO and Aetna PPO plans
Ready to Take the Next Step?
If you're tired of trying to fix things alone and want a better way to be together, we're here. Schedule a couples therapy consultation with Deja today and begin the journey toward a stronger, more connected partnership.
Want to learn more about Deja?
Walk With Me Counseling Center: Helping couples across Illinois heal with love, cultural awareness, and practical support.
