You keep showing up for people who don't show up back — and you can't figure out why you keep doing it. It's not a willpower problem. It's not a boundaries problem. Deja Phillips, LSW, CADC explains the attachment pattern underneath overgiving in friendships — and what it actually takes to change it.

You said what you said. And then you said it again — softer, with more context, more reassurance. If you keep overexplaining yourself in relationships and can't figure out why, this post is for you.